I’m very lousy at answering my messages

Let me tell you a little secret: I hate small talk.

If you ever send me a text just saying “Hi” or just saying my name, chances are that I’m not going to answer it. I usually try to be better at this with people who don’t really know me and don’t know that I hate beating around the bush.

I try, but I have my limits. There once was this guy who sent me 16 “Hello”s in a minute on what’s App. There are loads of people who I answer “Hi! How are you?” and then they never answer me back. It drives me crazy! If you’re contacting me, at least have the decency to tell me what you wanted to tell me instead of leaving me hanging.

Where am I going with this?

Note: when I say text, I mean every form of written communication except for email. This includes: SMS, What’s App, Telegram, LINE, Facebook wall post, Facebook comments, Facebook messages, Vine messages, Instagram comments, Instagram messages, if you can write short messages it’s included in this list.

There are kinds of texts that I will answer in the moment, some that I will answer later, and some that I totally ignore. To me, texting or messaging is an asynchronous method of communication. Unless I see something interesting on my notifications, I’m not going to answer right away. I don’t consider a situation dire or urgent, if you start texting me with “Hi! How are you?”

I also have disabled notifications on many of my messaging mediums. My phone used to be beeping all the time, courtesy of many a group chat and I’m really enjoying the peace of not having my phone ringing or vibrating.

If you really need me, you can call me or SMS me. Those two phone functions can’t be silenced and be rest assured that I will answer right away.

What was the point?

Yeah, don’t waste my time and yours with “Hi! How are you?” and just tell me, ask me, let me know, whatever it is you need me for. It can be a huge long chat about your existential crisis or just a silly picture of Doge. I prefer long meaningful messages to standard small talk ones. I prefer a silly picture of Doge, a picture of grumpy cat, or a link to a BuzzFeed post instead of small talk. I’d rather you say “Hey Jules! Can you help me with this and that?” instead of “Hey! I haven’t seen you in ages. How have you been?”

I’d rather you ask me all the small talk questions when we’re on the phone or face to face. It is more personal than just writing “Oh! I’m fine!” (Even if I’m not).

 

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My Sansa Stark hairdo, well, kind of…

Ever since I colored my hair (a thing that deserves its own post), I’ve stopped using a lot of hair styling products and pretty much stopped brushing it except for hair washing days or when I flat iron it.

I also don’t like using a lot of dry shampoo in-between washes because I have a lot of hair, and I mean A LOT! So, when my hair is just uncontrollable, I braid it in some way or other.

You may or may not know, but I’m a HUGE Game of Thrones fan. I’m not really a fan of the book series because, no, just no. I really like the hairstyles that they have on the show and my hair is long and thick enough that I can probably do most of them on myself.

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The downside is that I have no hair skills whatsoever. Before I colored my hair, I would just wash it everyday (I know!), style my curls and leave the house. Now that I’m not washing it often, I have to be way more creative.

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Enter these marvelous playlists ( 1 & 2 ) full of Game of Thrones hair tutorials! These two girls are amazing at hair and I’m sure that my braiding skills will improve with time.

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So, the hairstyle that I’m wearing, is the hairstyle that Sansa wears on Season 1 Episode 2 when she runs into Sir Illyn Payne and The Hound on the King’s Road. I really like this hairstyle because it’s really easy to do and it keeps my hair from looking like an afro.

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My hair is naturally curly, but I sleep with two braids on my hair to keep it from going as frizzy as it normally would. I also use a bit of Argan Oil on the mids and ends to help keep it hydrated, shiny, and without frizz.

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So, that’s how my hair looks today. I didn’t brush it and I just braided it. I have to admit that my hair gives me way less hassle now that I don’t wash it as often and don’t use many products on it.

What is your favourite hairstyle?

If you are Mexican, why do you write your blog in English?

I get this question a lot from a lot of my Spanish speaking peers.

Why do I write my blog in English?

I like the English language, I like it a lot. I like how it sounds and I like the way my mouth moves when I articulate words.

I don’t remember a time when I did not speak English. My parents made sure that my sister and I had a bilingual education at private schools, so English is second nature to me. I took English classes since the age of 4 up until I was 17. I graduated high school with an English teaching degree by the British Embassy.

English is a big part of my life. While I don’t speak it with other people on a daily basis, everything I do is in English. My work, my shows, my video games, my music, my fandoms, my recipes, everything! Even my workouts are in English.

I guess that now that you know that, you don’t find so surprising that my blog is written in that language.

Sure, there are drawbacks to writing an English blog when your first language is another, but I’m not looking into making much with this space yet. As for finding clients and whatnot, if they don’t know English, then I don’t want to work with them.

Do you write your blog in a language other than your first language?

Of websites, design, and needs

One of my favourite things about meeting a new client, is to find out WHY they’re looking for my services. Most of them just want to have a website because they think that they need one. They think that being on the internet is enough to drive more business towards them.

I have found that having a website just for the sake of having one is not enough reason to actually have one. Making a website can be a very lengthy and expensive operation and you may not want to spend so much money and time on something just because.

I work better with clients that know exactly why they want a website and what they are going to use it for. Some clients want to have another way for potential clients to contact them, some others want to explain and show their services or products, others want to have blog sections to show their expertise through their posts.

Having a concrete objective is key when making a website. Sometimes, you can get away with a static HTML website if you just want to show your company contact info. If you are going to be managing products and making sales on the website, then you need an e-commerce CMS to handle all of that for you. If you need a blog, then something like WordPress will work best for you.

Depending on your objective us, as web designers and developers, can guide you through the tools you will need to have for your website.

Your objective is also key for the design part of the website. If you only want people to be able to find your office or shop, then you don’t need to have a “Contact” bit on the menu at the footer. No, you need to have that information handy for your user, so that they can find you and make contact with you.

Objectives also give us an idea of the metrics we will need to get to show you that the website is working. The metrics that  we get from a blog are never goinng to be the same as those from a static website with only contact information.

You see? It all comes down to the question “What  do I need my website for?”.

IT Engineer, web developer & designer